May 5Member-onlyWhy promoting adoption as an alternative to abortion is problematicIt is inevitable whenever Roe vs. Wade comes up in the news I have some folks reach out to me for a discussion about it. And while I’ve never asked why they reach out to me, a man, I am sure it’s for one or both of the following reasons: …Adoption5 min read
Apr 10Member-onlyThe importance of checking in on peopleOne of the things I find that I struggle with deeply and what is often the start of the spiral for me is that for you, the observer of me, I might look just fine, and we might interact without issue. And yet internally, I’m almost always in shambles. One…Mental Health5 min read
Mar 16Member-onlyWhat lies in the deepest, darkest corners of my mind?The days that my anxiety, depression, and emotional regulation are at levels that feel even somewhat stable are few and far between. Most days I feel like I’m hovering somewhere between being really stressed or riddled with anxiety and battling feelings of the deepest, darkest sadness that often manifests itself…Mental Health4 min read
Mar 4Member-onlyWhen a broken mind dips its toes into the spiritual poolThere was a time when I would wake up, see and feel that I’m alive, and thank God for one more day. The way this made sense in my head was that just knowing I was being allowed one more day was the best gift I could be given and…Spirituality3 min read
Jan 25I’ve carried this for yearsI think a lot. A lot. About everything. Everything. It is exceptionally difficult to turn my brain off. I will unwind the why of something until it’s been ground to dust, rebuild it and then unwind it again. In a recent set of spirals, I’ve been trying to figure out…Mental Health2 min read
Dec 30, 2021Member-only2021: I don’t even know…Recently, someone sent me a message that went something like this: “Hi Jeff, love reading what you write, I’m wondering if you’re planning on doing a 2021 year in review type of post?” My initial answer to this question was a resounding “absolutely not” but the more I’ve thought about…New Year4 min read
Dec 24, 2021Member-onlyMy Christmas LetterHello there. I watched the snow start to fall in the earliest hours of this most peculiar and strange Christmas Eve day. …Christmas Letter2 min read
Dec 20, 2021Member-onlyWhat my anxiety attacks are like and what fuels them.My anxiety is usually humming at a good pace after therapy. It’s the very same heavy, numb, sometimes sad feeling I get after visiting with my psych. …Mental Health3 min read
Dec 15, 2021Member-onlySpiritual Direction & NeurodivergenceHaving someone walk with me on my spiritual journey has increasingly become a mainstay in my life. As someone who does not fit the standard definition of being a neurotypical individual, I have specific needs for a spiritual director (SD), and I’ve met a few that didn’t feel like a…Spirituality5 min read
Dec 10, 2021Member-onlyAdoption: AbandonmentI’ve spoken about the 7 things I’ve learned from being adopted and thought I’d take some deeper dives into those seven subjects and others. I have an intense, deeply rooted fear of abandonment. While I think some people can piece together what that might mean or entail I thought I’d…Adoption4 min read